This was very refreshing to read, and my wife and I divvied up the night time feedings in just the way you described for all four of our kids (luckily, we were both able to quickly get over the Le Leche League propaganda about "nipple confusion" and the supposed harm that would be done if a baby took some of its breast milk feedings by bottle). And you've put your finger on one of the most treacherous aspects of contemporary online feminism: the extent to which it encourages mothers to demand that their husbands act EXACTLY like they would when it comes to the kids, and to regard any failure to do so as evidence of their incompetent and/or uncaring natures. Not only does this set impossible standards for new fathers, as you note; if allowed to take root, it also deprives the kids as they get older of their father's unique contributions as a parent, and kids absolutely do better when they're raised with the benefit of both maternal AND paternal instincts.
I feel like a lot of husbands do more today for their wives and kids at any point in history yet currently have the least respect by society at any point in history.
Men and women need each other, and the world is better off that they are generally, statistically, different. Right now a whole lot of women are completely blind to how dysfunctional an all-female discourse or culture can become, because it feels good to focus on how obviously horrific an all-male discourse or culture can be. Nobody prefers self-criticism.
Women are not morally superior to men or vice versa. Our tendency to think otherwise is an ironic proof of this.
According to some posts on this subject, if a man does nothing around the house he's worthless. If he does exactly what his wife asks, he shouldn't expect any thanks or praise, because he's "just doing his job." If he does it wrong, he's using "weaponized incompetence " to get out of work.
I hope this article gets lots of traction.
This was very refreshing to read, and my wife and I divvied up the night time feedings in just the way you described for all four of our kids (luckily, we were both able to quickly get over the Le Leche League propaganda about "nipple confusion" and the supposed harm that would be done if a baby took some of its breast milk feedings by bottle). And you've put your finger on one of the most treacherous aspects of contemporary online feminism: the extent to which it encourages mothers to demand that their husbands act EXACTLY like they would when it comes to the kids, and to regard any failure to do so as evidence of their incompetent and/or uncaring natures. Not only does this set impossible standards for new fathers, as you note; if allowed to take root, it also deprives the kids as they get older of their father's unique contributions as a parent, and kids absolutely do better when they're raised with the benefit of both maternal AND paternal instincts.
Well this was a breath of fresh air to read.
I feel like a lot of husbands do more today for their wives and kids at any point in history yet currently have the least respect by society at any point in history.
I wish you could you restack comments, because this is an incredible statement, so well put.
Men and women need each other, and the world is better off that they are generally, statistically, different. Right now a whole lot of women are completely blind to how dysfunctional an all-female discourse or culture can become, because it feels good to focus on how obviously horrific an all-male discourse or culture can be. Nobody prefers self-criticism.
Women are not morally superior to men or vice versa. Our tendency to think otherwise is an ironic proof of this.
If the two of you are the same, one of you is unnecessary. Vive la difference!
I'm 75 years old and been with my 2nd husband 27 years. I always say thank you for the little things he does. Men need to be appreciated.
I just don't understand couples who treat each other like the enemy. Why are you married again?
Beautiful! I so identify and am THANKFUL everyday for the beautiful father and husband my husband has always been.
According to some posts on this subject, if a man does nothing around the house he's worthless. If he does exactly what his wife asks, he shouldn't expect any thanks or praise, because he's "just doing his job." If he does it wrong, he's using "weaponized incompetence " to get out of work.
Feminism ruins everything. I loved this article.
Does anyone say "sports car" anymore?
I think they say "da whip, broham"